Monday, May 11, 2020

Straight From the Mouth of J. Richman Author of A Man's Late Night Thoughts

A Man’s late night thoughts did not start as a book. In the beginning it was a daily journal that I wrote each night I wrote a review of my days active and added my reaction and if I learned anything. I put that into a very short thought.

Then strange things happen. If during the day I would hear a odd word I found myself forming a raw thought that was a reflect of my past and that word---I made a note and placed the note by my computer and held in place by a plastic chunk of dog poop
From time to time late at night I review those raw ideas and started to rewrite them. Clean them up and shorten by removing unnecessary words---many of these were reworded a dozen times over time. Some were crap, some were great---I started to share these with friends and my kids---and when they added up to over a 100 I stared to think ---book---now 344 original  thoughts
These thoughts were about forgiving our self and others for deeds that could only fit into a nightmare.
Many were observation of screw ups that all men yes all of us do, but do not express our inter reactions. but should. Many our negative thoughts  come from the actions and words of other people that effect us---guilt trips that a boss or wife or so call friends try to give us, lesson is we do not to go—not required trip.
Forgive your self---few other will. One can say to yourself or other—that was before I knew better.
When women read the 344 thoughts and they gain knowledge of their man’s thinking and can change their reactions to how they handle problems in a way that will not further hurt their man and make every far worse.
At the same time many of the thoughts will give insight to all ladies problems and perhaps alter their life and how they think of themselves. Can I unwound you—Can you unwound me
Every man and every women or every teenager will like them self better after reading these thoughts

About the Book 

A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS by J. Richman is a creative and life-affirming collection of ponderings that expose the deep thoughts and feelings of a man who has lived a life full of diverse experiences and challenges. This uniquely constructed compilation of more than 300 reflections focuses on several areas of living, including intimate relationships and acceptance of human frailty, as well as the author’s internal conflicts.

A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS homes in on the complications inherent in intimate relationships from the opening pages of the book: “Problems accrue when we confuse how a woman looks with who she is.” Richman brings the perspective of a mature man to the lessons on love presented in the book, including, “Exploitation of another depreciates both parties,” and “The reason we fall in love with flawed people is that that’s the only kind of people there are.”

In addition to offering a brief study of intimate relationships, A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS probes human frailty and offers readers guidance in accepting this fact. “We must learn to be strong enough to be gentle,” brings into focus the need to deliberately work at treating people well. The author also encourages readers to show self-compassion when dealing with their own baggage: “Sometimes it’s difficult to see beyond the wreckage of our lives, but we must! Take heart! We are more than our mistakes.”

In A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS, Richman further challenges readers to take the reins of their lives when he says, “Name those things that you would do if you had no fear then do something about it.” He offers words of caution regarding political rhetoric: “Beware of politicians who whip up emotions to make us suspicious of others unlike us.” And rounds the book out by sharing his internal conflicts: “The world has bent me more than I have bent it”; “too often my logical mind and my emotional mind are hostile enemies”; “every time I look in the mirror, I expect to see a younger man.”

A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS began as a series of notes that Richman wrote to himself. “I found that if I do not write out my true, and often painful, thoughts and feelings, I do not deal with them.” Richman wishes a book like this one had been available when he was a boy because the knowledge enclosed could have assisted him in navigating his teenage and young adult years. He hopes A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS will assure men that they are not alone in their quiet musings. For women, Richman believes the book will provide a window into men’s unexpressed emotions.

BUYING LINKS:

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About the Author

Richman is the author of A MAN’S LATE NIGHT THOUGHTS, a collection of thoughts about life, relationships, and humanity.

Richman’s work history includes his service as an undercover intelligence officer in the US Air Force; later, he established a thriving business in real estate investment. For 16 years, Richman owned and operated Modify My Mortgage, a company that worked with homeowners to prevent foreclosures. His business success allowed Richman the time to pursue his passions, which included serving as the president of Nova, a workshop that provided work and life skills training for clients with disabilities; cofounding A Way Across, a drop-in center for teenagers with emotional and substance abuse problems; and fundraising for several more public service groups.

Richman enjoys writing and editing at night after allowing his ideas to blossom and expand during the day. The author is married with three sons and five grandsons.

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