The Inspiration Behind How to Punch Failure in the Face
By Tracy Huff
I wanted to have a bigger impact on not just my community, but also to help women and families that do not live in my city. I have had the pleasure of helping hundreds of kids and families build confidence
and have the courage to go and try things ( and succeed) that they never thought they could. My tool for creating these results is martial arts. I have found over the years that there are so many women and kids that are afraid to come into a martial arts school,
so I began taking the principles that I use and marketing them in a coaching program. It was not well received. I kept getting questions like, “What does a martial arts instructor know about coaching, goal setting, communication, or leadership?”. At first, I was tempted to agree with them and to think that maybe I was wrong. I was frustrated and then I got angry. I was complaining to my instructor. I asked him if he was as offended as I was that non-martial artists did not understand what we actually do in the martial arts school. He was not as upset as I was, but he suggested that I write the book. So I did.
I want everyone who reads my book to have a system to follow to burst through their fear of failure and be confident to be themselves everywhere. I want everyone who reads my book to finish it knowing what makes them amazing and having a clear plan to use their unique skills and abilities to change the world. Making change at whatever level they feel-their family, their community, their city, their state, or the world. I want my readers to join me in changing the world by showing up confident and fearless. I want them to Be
Amazing, Be Exceptional, Be You! (BE BABY!)
My book is the system I have been using for 15+ years in my martial arts school, so I did not have to do much research. The process I outline is what I get to do every day. I completed the book in about 14 weeks. Even though the book is based on what I have implemented in my martial arts school, I still struggled with combating the negative thoughts that I had about my book as I was writing it. I would get frustrated and feel like I was talking in circles and wanted to just quit because it wouldn’t really matter anyway.
One of the ways I ensured I would continue and complete it was to tell my leadership students I was writing it. I shared with them why and I knew they would hold me accountable and remind me of why I wanted to write it. I am a leader that believes in leading by example and I refused to allow my negative thoughts to make me a person who did not keep her word.
I have a friend who has written a book after the death of her father. She wrote the book to help her mourn her dad’s death and to process life without him. As I was completing my book and getting to the final draft, I shared it with her because I value her opinion. This was so scary for me, because I am human and I was afraid she would tell me that it sucked! When I asked her if I could read her book, she told me no. At first I was hurt, but then she explained that she
had let her husband read the book and he made some “suggestions” which made her feel like it wasn’t finished or ready enough for other people to read.
She said she really only wrote it for herself and she did not want to put it out there for other people to read because it might not sell and it would be a failure. I asked her to consider how she would feel if her book helped just one more person. That is what I focus on because my book is not written for everyone, but there are people I know I can help.When people tell me they are making their friends and kids read my book I am honored, humbled, and less afraid to keep promoting my book.
I chose to self-publish because we live in a world that has made is so easy to get our message out. I also knew that I was going to use my book to help explain my training philosophy to the parents of my martial arts students, as an introduction to me for coaching clients, and as a tool to book team building events.
If you feel like you should be writing a book, write it. You are amazing and the world needs to hear your message from your perspective. Success or failure is defined by you so don’t let your fear of failing hold you back. You’ve got this-go BE BABY!
After serving in the U.S. Armed Forces for four years, she finished her education in her current home of Fayetteville, NC. She is combining her life experience along with the skills and motivation she has developed as an entrepreneur and Master and sharing that with other business owners.
She is passionate about helping professional women and entrepreneurs build their confidence and achieve their goals. She’s an in-demand speaker and an expert on developing confidence and leadership skills and is available for workshops and speaking events.
Visit her website at www.defeatfailure.com or connect with her on Twitter and Facebook.
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